How do you see your lover? Is he the man of your dreams or the future father of your children? Does the former include the latter? Definitively not for every woman!
I want a one-of-a-kind man!
When you look at your better half, you see… the man who completes you, the man who seduced you, the man he has become, the man he is, the man who shares all your secrets, who is a fantastic dad that supports you. You see the man you can count on, who won’t deceive you, the man you chose to live with every day. He’s the man with whom you’re making plans for the future, the man of your… entire life?
It is hard to separate your man into different parts. Do you love a man differently if he has experienced paternity by your side while you are also learning to become a mother? Probably. However, love cannot be reduced to such a restrictive definition. A woman can also fall in love head over heels with a man whose children will never call her mom, or with a man who will never be the father of her children.
Chasing the perfect man!
During your teenage years, you spent endless hours dreaming about your future lover. He had all the qualities you could imagine: handsome, charming, caring, poetic, athletic, passionate, ambitious, generous… As you grew older, lovers came in and out of your life and with time, you learned how to define what you want a little better.
However, if you want to have a family, whether in the near future or in 15 years, new criteria must be added to the list. Your man’s heart will have to melt in front of a chubby baby. Your man won’t want to run away when your 18-month old nephew starts drooling all around your house with dirty hands. No, your man will get on his knees and play with the little guy! On the other half, if you wish to travel and have an exciting career, you have to look for a man who won’t be frightened by your fast-paced lifestyle.
I want some, he does not want any, we want some
– A man’s transformation…
“When I met my boyfriend, I was only 17 years old and he was almost 22. Yet it was clear in my heart and mind that I wanted four children. The man of my dreams had to be the father of my children, there was no doubt about it.
