Good marriages are a lot of work. Most people don’t want to hear that. Many couples are in La La Land when they marry. But a marriage needs to have two people who really want the marriage to succeed in order for it to last for the long-term and involve two happy people. Here’s a list of tips that will help married couples have long and happy marriages:
Be Honest With Each Other
Some people think that making the other person happy is the best plan in a marriage. But eventually, if you are always giving in to the other person’s wishes,while shoving your own wants and needs under the rug, resentment will build up inside you.
Whether it be major decisions such as whether or not your spouse should take a new job and move the two of you out of state, to smaller things, like what restaurant to eat in, be honest with your spouse.
Of course there may be times you truly don’t care, and at those times it’s fine to let your partner decide. But being honest with your spouse is one of the best ways to have a healthy relationship.
As a precaution here, let me just say that being too honest so that you hurt someone’s feelings is not a good plan. If someone asks how you look in a certain shirt or blouse,
you can actually phrase it in a way that won’t hurt feelings. A statement such as, “It’s definitely not the best color for you” is much better than saying, “You look so pale it looks like you’re a corpse!”
2) Communication Is Important in a Healthy Marriage
What does communication between a married couple actually mean? Don’t they live together and talk to each other every day Well, maybe but communication in a happy
and healthy marriage needs to go further than, ’Please pass the butter” or ”Can I have the Sports section of the newspaper?Two people are in a marriage together so both should be able to discuss their wants and needs.
Open communication is a very good thing. It could be about their hopes and dreams, or it could be talking about ways to live together more peacefully. It should definitely include some discussions about money because money issues are often the cause most often link to marital discord.
Some people get aggravated by their spouse for years, and never bring it up. Then when they announce they want a divorce and the spouse asks why, they give them a whole laundry list of things they have done wrong over the years.
