We use physical appearance as an excuse to stop ourselves from getting to know a woman as deeply as we would get to know someone else. We are so blinded by beauty that it makes us believe that women can be beautiful OR smart but not beautiful AND smart. We like to label everything and everyone, shove the world into boxes based on our preconceived notions so it feels more ordered.
Our society wants women to be like a rose, delicate and pretty. But they often forget that there are no roses without thorns.
It starts at a young age when girls are told how pretty they are and boys are told how strong they are. As this girl grows up, she is expected to stroll six malls to find the right cocktail dress, while she wishes someone taught her how to wear happiness.
When her words create a new dimension, they say she craves for attention. Everyone wants a picture of her or with her. But no one wants to actually talk to her. The need to be pretty, follows us around like a shadow, masking our talents.
Women who feel both smart and pretty get ostracized because people are deeply uncomfortable with the notion that we could possess and wield that much power.The fact that a woman’s identity isn’t based on something as superficial as beauty,
and it extends a lot deeper than her appearance is long forgotten. Being pretty becomes a disturbance, blocking out the ability of others getting to appreciate women for their inner radiance.
