Joint family system is quite common in many families in our society. There are many benefits of joint family system but at the same time, there are its few side effects as well. These side effects are actually insignificant, but sometimes they have a deep impact due to our reaction towards them. ‘Fights between children’ is one of such issues which will be discussed in this article.
Living in a joint family system, children sometimes beat or harm one other while playing or fighting. Along with showing patience, parents should act wisely in such situations. They should keep in mind that children’s conflicts are temporary.
They only focus on the present moment. If parents do not interfere at such occasions, children start playing together again after a short while. On the contrary, reacting to such situations vice versa will not only harm the parents but the children as well because such matters get worse if not ended then and there. A few beneficial tips are as follows:
1. Firstly, all the children of a house should be brought up by giving them the mindset of living together with affection and unity. In particular, elder kids should be encouraged to look after their younger siblings and cousins. Children should not be allowed to treat one another rudely while playing.
2. If situation does not get too serious in children’s fight, parents should ignore it because children’s next step depends upon the parents’ reaction to the situation. They learn from parents. If parents exaggerate a petty issue, children will do the same next time because it is generally observed that children initially make it up with each other, but due to such persistently adverse reaction of parents, they too develop hatred against each other.
3. Parents should develop their own as well as children’s mindset: Since we are all together, we are all one family. As fight between siblings is not made a big issue, the same attitude should be adopted with cousins too.
4. If it becomes necessary for parents to get involved in children’s fight, parents should behave wisely rather than being on someone’s side. Moreover, instead of giving special attention to a particular child, they should listen to everyone. Then, they should correct the children and explain to them as the situation demands.
