Whether you’re the grieving widow or an acquaintance of the deceased, these funeral etiquette tips will ensure that you don’t make any gaffes during this difficult time.
When you’re attending a funeral, it’s sometimes difficult to know the appropriate funeral etiquette, especially if it’s your first funeral. So, to help you navigate this challenging time with confidence, here’s a guide to proper funeral etiquette for before, during and after the funeral service.
Etiquette before a funeral service
When to contact the family
Once you hear the news of someone passing away, it’s appropriate to contact the bereaved family before the funeral. Because this time is overwhelming and emotional, it’s best to contact them by sending a card or flowers to let them know you’re thinking of them and are available for support. These days, you may also send a text message. If you’re close with the family, then it’s proper etiquette to give the family a call.
Sending flowers vs giving a donation
After the death of someone you know, it’s appropriate to send flowers to the family at their home before the funeral. If you’re not close with the family, it’s also acceptable to send them directly to the funeral home or bring flowers to the service.
It’s also common for the family to ask for a donation to a relevant charity instead of receiving funeral flowers. If this is the case, it’s best to respect the family’s wish for a donation. You can typically find this information in the funeral notice or by calling the funeral home.
