Dear husbands-whose-wives-are lonely-for-you,
I’m writing this letter to you because I want you to spend the rest of your days with the love of your life. Truly I do. Some of these words may sound harsh, but they are deliberately bold and blunt because the message is so important.
Some of you may recognize yourselves in this letter…show your wife and ask her if this letter applies to you? She may want to read this one.
Some of you may have been given a copy of this letter, or it was left on the front seat of your car, or slipped into your laptop case to find. If you are reading this because your wife gave it to you…do me a favor?
Thank her.
Let your wife know she was very brave and very kind to give it to you. Let her know this letter was a lot to digest so you are thanking her, but you won’t be able to discuss it further because you need some time to think it through. Let her know that you want this marriage to work as much as she does…and you had no idea how much it wasn’t working for her. Let her know that you want to take it seriously and make lasting changes. Mostly let her know you read it, and it matters to you.
This letter isn’t going to be easy to read. It may even make you furious, or want to hide, or get drunk or pull away, or get involved in a super big project in the garage or at work or at the community center to avoid the conversations this letter invites. You may be pissed off at me because of the implications of this letter.
You may have devoted your life to providing her a good life with secure finances and a beautiful house. You may take her on a big vacation once a year…you have really tried to give her what you thought was a good life. To get this letter is really going to hurt because all your good intentions won’t feel good enough.
