We’ve been there: You shop long and hard to find the perfect wedding card for the soon-to-be married couple and then you get home and have a pretty rough time figuring out what to write in it. The good news is, there are no hard-and-fast rules about what to write in a wedding card. As long as your wedding congratulations message is heartfelt and offers the couple a positive wish for their marriage, you’re good to go.
It should almost go without saying that wedding cards are customary for anyone who wants to send wedding wishes to an engaged or newly married couple.
If you’re following traditional wedding guest etiquette, you’ll either want to bring the card to the wedding reception or mail it directly to the couple (usually between the time you receive the wedding invitation and a few weeks after the wedding).
Honestly though, you can send it whenever you want. You could even send a nice card if the wedding is small and you’re not invited. Simply put: Wedding congratulations are welcome anytime by anyone!
As for the card itself, wedding cards come in lots of different formats. There are the standard greeting cards you can find at a cute stationery shop, but there are also homemade cards,
small tags attached to gifts and even simple, digitally created wedding messages that are printed and shipped to the couple with their gift. All of the above pass as a wedding card and are considered okay, so don’t feel the need to have more than one.
(Then again, if you bought a gift off the couple’s registry and want them to also have a pretty card from you, take one to the reception and drop it in the wedding card box or on the gift table!)
